I am trying to watch my feelings but they are VERY good at pulling me in, any tips to not get pulled in?

Post here if you are just starting out with your mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is a really difficult concept to get your head around at first, and it might be that you would benefit from some help from others.
mightywindr
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Practice Mindfulness Since: 10 Oct 2015

Mon Oct 19, 2020 1:50 am  

So you are meant to watch them just pass by like clouds but boy some of them are STICKY and they seem like you cant help but get involved with them and its like you dont have a choice but to be tricked into resisting by them.

Any tips so I dont get pulled in?

mightywindr
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Practice Mindfulness Since: 10 Oct 2015

Mon Oct 19, 2020 3:16 am  

Its like they (the feelings that feel bad) make me believe I have no choice but to start using my mind solving etc they are so tricky and sticky its hard to not get attached , its like nightmare hard

JonW
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Mon Oct 19, 2020 8:24 am  

This is the practice. Noticing that we are caught up in thoughts, returning to our chosen anchor (breath, sound, body sensations etc.). And doing this again and again and again. This is how we strengthen the muscle of attention/awareness. And we strengthen that muscle in meditation.
Try meditating for longer. And vary your practice. Sitting, body scans, mindful movement, walking meditation, meditating to music...
The sitting is the practice. The rest of the day is the meditation. But it takes time, patience and a lot of self-compassion to get there. And it's never perfect. And, ultimately, there's nowhere to get to. It's all about being with whatever arises, from moment to moment.
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mightywindr
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Practice Mindfulness Since: 10 Oct 2015

Mon Oct 19, 2020 4:32 pm  

JonW wrote:This is the practice. Noticing that we are caught up in thoughts, returning to our chosen anchor (breath, sound, body sensations etc.). And doing this again and again and again. This is how we strengthen the muscle of attention/awareness. And we strengthen that muscle in meditation.
Try meditating for longer. And vary your practice. Sitting, body scans, mindful movement, walking meditation, meditating to music...
The sitting is the practice. The rest of the day is the meditation. But it takes time, patience and a lot of self-compassion to get there. And it's never perfect. And, ultimately, there's nowhere to get to. It's all about being with whatever arises, from moment to moment.


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