What to do with difficult thoughts in daily life?

[Peter]

Great realization, Happy! A lot of people seem to have the same problem. I never was very judgmental towards myself. I guess I'm lucky that way.
Peter

[Happyogababe]

Great realization, Happy! A lot of people seem to have the same problem. I never was very judgmental towards myself. I guess I'm lucky that way.
Peter

You are most fortunate, indeed. I'm glad for you.

[fbatista]

Once you observe your thoughts, the next step is to redefine them. Ask "Why do I think this?" Try to figure out what your mind is basing this thought on. Then question whether that is an accurate basis. Remember that just because someone said it or just because it happened in the past, does not make something automatically true. Be curious with your own mind, until you get to the point where you can redefine the assumption.

But, wait, asking yourself "why" you're feeling that way isn't against the approach-oriented way of dealing with thoughts? I mean, instead of asking myself "why am I feeling sad?", shouldn't I just realize that I'm sad and, then, watch the feeling unfold and then go away?

[JonW]

Hi fbatista,
Yes, I agree with you. Redefining sounds like a lot of unnecessary overthinking to me.
All best wishes,
Jon