The 'secrets' of all day mindfulness

[piedwagtail91]

i'm with jon on this.
we had someone come on a course expecting mindfulness to be a baseball bat that 'this person' could use to smash depression and anxiety.
it didn't work, it was obvious after 3 - 4 weeks that it wasn't helping.
12 months later 'this person' came back and did the course 'properly' and for them it then worked, they got what mindfulness was about and more importantly what it wasn't.
mindfulness isn't about beating anything, it's about being with, being aware and treating yourself in a compassionate , kind and caring way.
no need to take a hard line or beat yourself up.

[FeeHutch]

Yep I agree guys, that description of mindfulness felt very aggressive to me. Thanks for understanding where we are coming from Peter.

[maxmindfulness]

With your permission may I post my 'Got Anxiety? Understand what Mindfulness actually does for you' article its worded more appropriately and will be very handy to someone.
I know you've only had one post to 'judge' me on but rest assured I am writing new posts daily that are worded in a way acceptable to whomever the articles are concerned.
The one I posted was written in terms I understand, I come from a rougher background than many in this field. I'm am the nicest guy you would meet and I have love oozing from my pores, please don't let 'weapon' offend you. For some,problems have been like enemies. Let victory comes first, we have ours lives to calm down and become truly peaceful. Hope that sheds a little light on that one.

I'm going to be saying a lot of things that you won't have seen in any mindfulness books ever sir! but i shall always be considerate with it.
OK to post my anxiety article?

[barbs55]

If you've already got a webpage with your articles on, why not post just a sentence in our forum on what it's about with a link for people who are interested to read more. Long posts are a bit off-putting for what is meant to be an active discussion forum. People can then post a reply to you after they've read more on your webpage and we can get a good helpful conversation going?

[barbs55]

It is interesting how language can put you off. This article is called 'Mindfulness: Your Best Weapon in an Argument' and I nearly didn't read it because I found that title very aggressive and off-putting, and not how I see mindfulness at all. I see it as a gentle tool to enable us to see our minds more calmly and clearly. This is the link to the article http://www.simplemindfulness.com/2012/1 ... st-weapon/ and it's actually a very useful account of using mindful silence in an argument.

I also realised that I liked the post because it has some real examples in it, from the person's own life, of everyday mindfulness in action, rather than being the usual list of instructions on 'how to do mindfulness'. I think we do learn a lot from other people's accounts of their daily journeys to being more mindful and the obstacles they encounter on the way.

[maxmindfulness]

That's a good Idea Barbs thanks, I'll do that
I'm taking the language thing on board here and will be looking at such things closer in the future. I'm nr leicester too barbs

[rara]

With your permission may I post my 'Got Anxiety? Understand what Mindfulness actually does for you' article its worded more appropriately and will be very handy to someone.
I know you've only had one post to 'judge' me on but rest assured I am writing new posts daily that are worded in a way acceptable to whomever the articles are concerned.
The one I posted was written in terms I understand, I come from a rougher background than many in this field. I'm am the nicest guy you would meet and I have love oozing from my pores, please don't let 'weapon' offend you. For some,problems have been like enemies. Let victory comes first, we have ours lives to calm down and become truly peaceful. Hope that sheds a little light on that one.

I'm going to be saying a lot of things that you won't have seen in any mindfulness books ever sir! but i shall always be considerate with it.
OK to post my anxiety article?

I hear this. And we are in the "experienced" section. I can only say it's only fair to accept all angles!

I've said before, people don't need to read everything if they feel uncomfortable...that's their choice. Cool for the elaboration, from me anyways.

[Steve]

I very much agree with this sentiment: "Long posts are a bit off-putting for what is meant to be an active discussion forum".

Almost every long post I have read has given the impression of someone lecturing to others, or 'preaching' or self-promotion - it tends to come over as a monologue whereas its much nicer to promote dialogue. The only exception to this is when someone provides a personal (and often moving) story or history of their personal experience with mindfulness. These sometimes need to be long (and are often very inspiring).

I find communication works best when contributions are kept short and listening is kept long

Steve

[FeeHutch]

I find communication works best when contributions are kept short and listening is kept long

Steve

I love this sentiment, a valuable one to practice in all aspects of life I think