JOT week 12: Say Yes!
How are you finding the week of saying yes? I'm struggling. I get the idea of challenging yourself and being mindful of your automatic responses, but I have to monitor myself to ensure I'm not saying yes too much, overwhelming myself. This was a big part of rehab as well as my practice, listening too and accepting the need to prioritise. Just not quite connecting with it this week.
“Being mindful means that we take in the present moment as it is rather than as we would like it to be.”
Mark Williams
http://adlibbed.blogspot.co.uk/p/mindfulness-me-enjoy-silence.html
Find me on twitter - @feehutch
Mark Williams
http://adlibbed.blogspot.co.uk/p/mindfulness-me-enjoy-silence.html
Find me on twitter - @feehutch
Hi all
I've got a bit behind so am now starting the 'say yes' week (which I'll do in parallel with the current week). Several other things relating to saying Yes appeared in my inbox today so it seems like the right time to look at this.
Saying Yes seems to mean a number of things. Firstly, to be less negative about what comes up. And, following on from this, going with the flow rather than trying to control events myself and getting miffed if I they don't go my way).
Secondly, it seems to be accepting what is (whether good, neutral or bad) and not trying to resist emotionally what has or is happening, eg by wasting time mulling over how you think the situation could or should have been. Understanding the difference between acceptance and being happy with the situation is hard when the situation is not one of youe liking. My take on this is to look at it like planning a route.
To get to point B from where you are (point A), its necessary to know where point A is so you can then work out a route from A to B (eg using a map). You might not like where point A is, it might not be where you wanted or intended to be but unless you accept that you are at point A it it hard to plot a course from point A to point B. So accepting what is (ie saying Yes to it) is very much like accepting that you are at point A so you can plot a course to point B.
Accepting you are at point A is just accepting the reality of the present moment and does not mean you like it or approve of it. But by accepting you are at point A gives you a much better chance of finding you way to point B.
I'd be interested to hear other's views on the difference between say yes and being happy with the present situation.
Steve
I've got a bit behind so am now starting the 'say yes' week (which I'll do in parallel with the current week). Several other things relating to saying Yes appeared in my inbox today so it seems like the right time to look at this.
Saying Yes seems to mean a number of things. Firstly, to be less negative about what comes up. And, following on from this, going with the flow rather than trying to control events myself and getting miffed if I they don't go my way).
Secondly, it seems to be accepting what is (whether good, neutral or bad) and not trying to resist emotionally what has or is happening, eg by wasting time mulling over how you think the situation could or should have been. Understanding the difference between acceptance and being happy with the situation is hard when the situation is not one of youe liking. My take on this is to look at it like planning a route.
To get to point B from where you are (point A), its necessary to know where point A is so you can then work out a route from A to B (eg using a map). You might not like where point A is, it might not be where you wanted or intended to be but unless you accept that you are at point A it it hard to plot a course from point A to point B. So accepting what is (ie saying Yes to it) is very much like accepting that you are at point A so you can plot a course to point B.
Accepting you are at point A is just accepting the reality of the present moment and does not mean you like it or approve of it. But by accepting you are at point A gives you a much better chance of finding you way to point B.
I'd be interested to hear other's views on the difference between say yes and being happy with the present situation.
Steve
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