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BioSattva
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Thu May 09, 2013 9:36 am  

rara wrote:when I receive two separate messages saying that some think the forum should be "secular", what on earth does that mean? Where do we draw the line? I've certainly put Buddhist and Taoist references out there before.

As I was discussing with Omni - many non-secular or non-mindfulness quotes and practices appear to support the secular mindfulness methodology, and so such quotes can be considered worthwhile in a secular light. It's different to say, for example, "Einstein's mystical life gave his science practice power", rather than "Einstein's science practice was powerful even though he had mystical leanings". The main definition of mindfulness used by this forum is a secular one. On a Zen forum it's a Zen Buddhist one. On a Daoist forum it's a Daoist one. The Daoist mods wouldn't be too happy if I went on their forum and started telling them Daoism is all about God and speaking to God. There are overlaps, but they will want to ensure that when I mention the word 'Dao' - it's the same historical Dao that their forum has been set up to talk about. That's my understanding of it.

The advantage science has is that it's framework includes anyone interested in sharing the same demonstrable reality as anyone else. The disadvantage of mystical notions is that they create divisions between those who say they can see a truer reality and those who can't. That doesn't often promote equality and mutual respect it seems.

rara wrote:Again, as I said, no one HAS to read what other people put.

Trying to take part in discussions where people are making references to posts that one hasn't read, or has no interest in reading, is very difficult. This means that one can feel left out of a discussion thread because one person is bringing something divisive, mysterious, and undemonstrable into the mix and muddying the definitions of key phenomena one is dicussing. Again; that's my initial reaction to your question.
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Thu May 09, 2013 9:59 am  

The simple matter is that it was roundly agreed that Omni was having a disruptive influence on the forum. That's all.
He was given ample warning that his posts were not appreciated by the majority. These warnings he chose to ignore.
As with any community, the concerns of the majority had to be taken into consideration.
I'm sure he'll easily be able to find a forum more appreciative of his views and his general approach. I wish him well.
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Cheesus
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Thu May 09, 2013 11:42 am  

Without wishing to flog a dead horse, I feel rara's view is underrepresented and I would just like to add my support to his/her (sorry I have never spoken to you before) position.

Omni's posts stood out because they were a large presence on a relatively small forum. Moving forwards, Omni's presence would be relatively diminished against the backdrop of more people, more posts, and more opinions. That is the nature of the internet and it is an unenviable task trying to ultimately subdue it to any significant degree if you do not wish growth to be stifled.

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Thu May 09, 2013 11:57 am  

Hi Cheesus.
I appreciate your feedback.
"Omni's posts stood out because they were a large presence on a relatively small forum."
That's certainly true.
Like I say, we're slowly finding our way as a community and maybe the idea of establishing an acceptable tone on the forum is an unenviable task. But it's a task that the moderators, myself included, have volunteered to take on.
The decisions we make are not always going to universally popular. But Gareth, Fee and myself were in unanimous agreement regarding Omni's presence on the site. It has nothing to do with whether we agree or disagree with Omni's opinions. It has everything to do with the way those opinions were expressed. If we feel that somebody is a disruptive influence on the forum, then we need to act. Otherwise there would be no point in having moderators at all. I've visited forums (including supposedly supportive groups for those suffering from depression) that have been unmoderated and I've noticed a great deal of cruel, bullying behaviour. In my view, a forum operates best when it is moderated and parameters are made perfectly clear. From time to time, those parameters need to be revised.
Again, all feedback on this subject is warmly welcomed.
Thanks, Jon
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Cheesus
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Thu May 09, 2013 12:05 pm  

If that is the general feeling, then who am I to argue. I don't have any particularly strong feelings about it one way or another, I just felt that the full spectrum of opinion should be offered for the purposes of meaningful reflection and subsequent progression.

This is very much an interesting exercise in group mindfulness, it seems. It hadn't occurred to me that a mindfulness forum could in some ways just be a macrocosm of each of our own plights with mindfulness, though with how the micro and macro relate to each other at a social level it doesn't surprise me at all.

I actually think it would be really interesting to study something like this.
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Thu May 09, 2013 12:21 pm  

'It hadn't occurred to me that a mindfulness forum could in some ways just be a macrocosm of each of our own plights with mindfulness."

That's a brilliant point.
I guess that's the size of the challenge ahead. How to maintain a mindfulness community that is, in itself, mindful.
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rara
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Thu May 09, 2013 3:35 pm  

Thanks! I think we're all learning something from this now...

Those last two post are kind of what I'm getting at. The fact that maybe, just maybe, there have been a few irrational moments in the last few days, both from each side (no matter how smaller side one may have been. In fact, I'll stop saying sides. That's just indicating divide, that's no good for anyone)

@Bio ... lol. We could debate this for hours. Maybe in PMs we will continue. You clearly have a big viewpoint and certain experiences that have led you there so I'm all ears for this! Sharing info and learning is what it's about. Personal development.

Anyways, back to the other threads I guess!
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rara
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Thu May 09, 2013 3:38 pm  

Oh and @Cheesus , I am male :lol:

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