Advice about snoring partner

[Happyogababe]

I know the subject seems random but if anyone can help it'd be hugely appreciated. My husband snores regularly (he's had surgery and trying all gadgets that may help, I've tried earplugs unsuccessfully). Since restarting mindfulness meditation I've at least been able to remain calm when the noise wakes me but it's do distracting that I struggle to be able to accept or ignore it and lack of sleep is horrendous.

Has anyone any tips for dealing with this in a mindful way? I'm thinking if I can accept other sounds then there's a chance I could get to accept thunderous snores?

[callez]

If you're not satisfied with a situation: change what you can and accept what you can't change.

And in this particular dilemma there's loads of solutions! Seek your GP instead of losing many nights of sleep ☺ since acceptance is a gradual process it might take quite some time!

This is just my opinion anyhow!

Sleep well

[JonW]

I'm with callez on this: change what you can and accept what you can't change.
However, it's asking a lot of mindfulness (and yourself) to accept that your husband's snoring might well continue and that you have to be accepting of that.
A good, undisturbed night's sleep is imperative.
Perhaps the most mindful thing to do would be to negotiate separate rooms for sleeping until a cure for the snoring is found. I hope someone can suggest a less radical course of action...
Jon

[Peter]

I agree with Jon!

I would just sleep in separate rooms. And visit each other once or twice a week

Peter

[JonW]

"And visit each other once or twice a week."

Yes. If a couple decides to sleep in separate rooms, it is advisable to visit each other once or twice a week to check that the other is still alive.
Jon

[MiM]

One possibility can be to go to bed together in the evening and then if (when) the snoring gets disturbing, either person moves to another room.

Mindfulness has helped me with many things, but sleeping through my wife's snoring is not one of those. Luckily she usually gets quiet if I get her to turn over.

[Peter]

I've used a pillow to muffle the sound. Only had to use it once.

Peter

[Happyogababe]

Hi Callez, Jon, Peter and MiM,

Thanks so much for your input and ideas. I agree that turning on his side does help, I've used that up to now. Another room isn't really an option at present so for now its trial and error with mouth guard and nasal opening thingy that seems to help but the mouth guard can be painful. Last night was not bad at all and I'm pleased to say that I got some sleep, there was only a little episode and I managed to just let it be! I drifted back to sleep, having said that it was only a little rumble and not long, loud sounds.

Thanks a lot, I really appreciate your input.

[Peter]

Hi Happy,

Every 2 years or so, I buy a box with 200 pairs of ear plugs that reduce the volume with 35 dB (which is a lot). I've been using them for years, whenever I want absolute silence. That might be an option too.

Peter

[JonW]

'I've used a pillow to muffle the sound.'

Presumably the pillow goes over your ears rather than the snorer's face?
Jon